You’ve invested in the most expensive gym membership. Your refrigerator is stocked with protein, fiber, and probiotic-rich foods. But when was the last time you showed the same care for your mind? This Saturday, let’s change that. Not with a 10-step routine or a lavish spa, but by asking five honest questions. Don’t rush, take your time. The answers won’t fix everything. But this practice will provide it a place to land, to better understand your emotional and mental wellness.
What am I feeling right now?
You have been occupied all week. Running errands at home, meeting deadlines at work, and everything in between. You have had time for everyone else, but you. Most of us are good at brushing the difficult emotions under the carpet. To reset, you have to address these emotions. It could be the conversation that went sideways with your partner on Tuesday. Maybe the client feedback left you upset. Acknowledging its existence, sans any judgment, is crucial. You cannot address what you refuse to see.
What drained me this week, and what made me happy?
It’s time to look back and reflect. Go back to the moments that drained your energy this week. Maybe the nosy neighbour, or the difficult colleague. Also, reflect on what made you happy this week. Maybe that freewheeling conversation you had with your best friend. Or the satisfaction of feeding a community dog. Perhaps a song that hit right. Or the kebabs your mom sent over. When you map these honestly, you will understand where to focus.
What do I need more of: rest, clarity, connection, or courage?
Now the weekend has arrived, ask yourself, what your heart really desires. Is it rest, or perhaps clarity on where you stand? Maybe your heart is searching for something real, a connection. Or is it time to stand on your two feet? Rest means you are drained or emotionally stretched. Clarity means you feel stuck. If you seek connection, it could be due to the lack of support or because you are feeling lonely. Courage means fear, doubt, or hesitation is killing you.
Was I hard on myself? Where?
While self-criticism is essential for growth, it is important not to go overboard. Though it can keep you motivated and accountable, sometimes it may backfire. Think of one place this week where you were your own harshest critic. Now ask again. What would you have told someone else you love, in the exact situation you were in? Now check the difference between the two responses.
What is one small thing I can do in the next 24 hours to feel happy?
Now that you have asked the tough questions, answered your worries, and reflected on the week, think of something that would make you happy. This is the exact moment where self-love should kick in. What can you do in the coming hours to be more at peace and to foster happiness? More sleep. An hour of doing absolutely nothing. Or perhaps going on a short ride. You need a little honesty and the willingness to sit still long enough to hear the answers. And Saturday is the perfect day.